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Codependency
®
2nd Edition
by Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT
Codependency For Dummies
®
, 2nd Edition
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Contents at a Glance
Introduction ................................................................. 1
Part I: Getting Started on Overcoming Codependency ...... 5
Chapter 1: Codependency Hurts....................................................................................... 7
Chapter 2: Somebody Please Tell Me What Codependency Is.................................... 29
Chapter 3: Symptoms of Codependency........................................................................ 39
Chapter 4: Crossing De-Nile to Recovery ....................................................................... 71
Chapter 5: So, Are You Codependent? ........................................................................... 81
Part II: Breakthrough to Recovery — Healing
Yourself .......................................................... 89
Chapter 6: Getting Started in Recovery ......................................................................... 91
Chapter 7: What Made You Codependent?.................................................................... 99
Chapter 8: Healing Your Wounds — Freeing Your Self .............................................. 121
Chapter 9: Welcome to the Real You............................................................................ 139
Chapter 10: Building Self-Esteem and Self-Love .......................................................... 155
Chapter 11: Finding Pleasure......................................................................................... 177
Part III: Healing Your Relationships with Others ......... 187
Chapter 12: Letting Go and Nonattachment ................................................................ 189
Chapter 13: Speaking Up ................................................................................................ 211
Chapter 14: Relating to Your Family, Friends, and Lovers ........................................ 229
Chapter 15: Making Relationships Work ...................................................................... 243
Part IV: Moving On and Maintaining Recovery ............ 261
Chapter 16: Following Your Bliss .................................................................................. 263
Chapter 17: Where to Get Help ..................................................................................... 277
Chapter 18: Working the Twelve Steps ........................................................................ 285
Chapter 19: Maintaining Recovery ............................................................................... 303
Part V: The Part of Tens ............................................ 315
Chapter 20: Ten Ways to Love Yourself....................................................................... 317
Chapter 21: Ten Daily Reminders ................................................................................. 323
Index ....................................................................... 329

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